Asians are not UGLY...

Dearest friends,

I think there are many beautiful Asians out there, despite the constant portrayal of slit/slanted eyed, flat faced and dopy looking asians with horrible fashion sense.

Fashion magazines continue to ignore the use of Asian models. I know this for a fact, because I ritually read magzines such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Cleo etc, and the quick flick through Dolly and Girlfriend magazines. WHERE ARE THE ASIANS????? With an abundant inflow of Asian immigrants, I am disappointed to say that the forementioned magazines have failed to research the demographics of their readers. Unless ofcourse, they only intend for white readers. If so, FY!

They regularly do editions on red hair, brunettes and blondes. Why is Brunette always brown? Brunette means dark hair not brown hair(checked my dictionary), therefore they should use black hair occasionally to represent brunettes.

Even when, asians are represented in the media, the ugly ones are picked. People like William Hung, the new girl Sunny on Neighbours, just to name a few. Common factor between all? SMALL EYES/Barely there eyes! No wonder, the western society think that we are all like that. Furthermore, when asians do feature in advertisements, it is always to bring a mockery factor. Thank you very much for making us into a joke!





Westerners need to understand that Asians are just as beautiful...I have included 2 regular asians to demonstrate my premise.

This is Juley from SwankHeights.blogspot.com


This is Trang from behindtheseams.blogspot.com, this girl has impeccable taste!


XoXo!

HOW TO AVOID ...Awkward Silences

I love silence. I am the type of person who is not afraid of solitude. Solitude is very different from being lonely. Loneliness results from loss of a person, or a loss of purpose, but solitude is a peaceful reflective time. During my time alone, I like to read and write and surf the web. To be honest, I rather join a book club then go to a club. Before you press the X button on the top right hand corner of your screen, I do socialise. I just came back from a 2 games of bowling!

Having said that, I detest awkward silences. It leaves me feeling socially retarded. As a result, I have come up with ways to avoid it.Awkward silences arises when you:

- don't know that person well, you have got past the "hello and how are you" and you have no idea how to leave politely, so you are stuck there. You smile awkwardly at that person. The person smiles back. You are not sure what to say or ask, because you don't want to sound "uncool" or too intrusive.

what I normally do: "oh this is awkward, we could talk about the weather or the sport, which do you prefer?" I like to tackle the problem head on.

- see someone you haven't seen for a long time. The conversation always start very enthusiastically with the "OMGGG" but after 2 minutes of "what have you been up to?" and "oh not much", conversation comes to a halt.

What I normally do: Oh, too bad I'm in a rush to goto___INSERT___, hope to see you soon!

- see an acquaintance and you have to talk to them, because your friends have not arrived and there is no one else to talk to at the party.

What I normally do: start off with greetings, university, traveling, AFL/cycling/tennis(male) /Twilight(female). Ask questions about their work or mutual friends. If the conversation continues, you can then move on to relationships. DON"T act too surprised, when you find out they do have a partner. That tends to make situations even more awkward. I would know. :(

I blame awkward silences on people who give you mono answers. "good" "nothing" "not much" "oh great" Such conversation killers. The general rule is, ask 5 questions, if they continuously give you mono answers, move on to someone else, or start talking about yourself. My ability to blab is impressive for someone who is considered quiet shy, if I feel awkward silences are inevitable, I would just keep talking and talking and talking. This is followed by nodding and smiling to any responses that come my way.
Xo Xo
Please feel free to leave any suggestions!
I hope that is some what helpful!

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You made the world a better place...

Dearest friends,

We have lost some one great today.

I can't believe he is gone. I know my friend Niro is devastated, he is such a huge fan.

Michael Jackson is undoubtedly one of the greatest performers in my lifetime.
I loved him in Jackson five, in the Thriller and in Billie Jean. I hope people remember him for who he is, a father, a dancer, a singer and someone who has bought so much hope to many. Although I have never been obsessed about MJ, but he has always entertained me. I have so much respect for what he has achieved. No one will or should take that away from him.


I have been listening to his songs on my cassette player. That's how old some of them are.
This is my favourite...

There's a place in your heart
And I know that it is love
And this place could be much
Brighter than tomorrow.
And if you really try
You'll find there's no need to cry
In this place you'll feel
There's no hurt or sorrow.
There are ways to get there
If you care enough for the living
Make a little space, make a better place.


Heal the world
Make it a better place
For you and for me and the entire human race
There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for
You and for me.
If you want to know why
There's a love that cannot lie
Love is strong
It only cares for joyful giving.
If we try we shall see
In this bliss we cannot feel
Fear or dread
We stop existing and start living
Then it feels that always
Love's enough for us growing
Make a better world, make a better world.

And the dream we would conceived in
Will reveal a joyful face
And the world we once believed in
Will shine again in grace
Then why do we keep strangling life
Wound this earth, crucify it's soul
Though it's plain to see, this world is heavenly
Be God's glow.


We could fly so high
Let our spirits never die
In my heart I feel
You are all my brothers
Create a world with no fear
Together we'll cry happy tears
See the nations turn
Their swords into plowshares
We could really get there
If you cared enough for the living
Make a little space to make a better place.


I am still speechless. I hope you all take care! Please take care. XoXo

Goodbye to "bad boys"...

Between the age of 15-18. I admit, I did have a thing for the bad boys. There is something about them that is just attractive. Was it the looks? No.. It was more of the attitude and the.. omg "he is so wild, but I can tame him" ideology.

I blame the movies and books for such delusions. In those stories, the guys are always wild, grown up in the wrong side of the town, partying, not turning up to school, not nice to people, unreliable and so forth. But then one day he meets this girl, at first he didn't think much, he tries to intimidate her and push her away like he does to others, but she stands up to him. He is so shocked because this timid good girl is not afraid of him. He is interested, he gets to know her more. BAM! He starts to follow her around, he writes sweet letters, he protects her...he has fallen in love with her.

So now I'm older, armed with better and more rational reasoning skills, I once again analyse what it really means to "date a bad boy".

Firstly, why are these guys bad? Yes, they had a rough upbringing, but they still have a choice to be responsible for their actions and to be nice to others. There is really no excuse to being an asshole.

Secondly, will they ever be nice to the one particular girl? No, it's unlikely. They are unreliable, and they never wanted to be responsible and obey rules of the society. Even if you do try to change them, it will only be temporary.

Thirdly, who wants to be called to the police station at 2Am to bail out your boyfriend, because he decides that he has to "stick up for a mate" by getting into a fist fight? or even worst, to be on the end of a fist fight. Poor Rhianna..

Lastly, if the reason you are attracted to X because he is hardcore, wild, bad etc... then clearly, you will lose interest when he becomes tamed by you. When he does all the right thing and follow you around like a puppy, will you still be attracted to him?


Therefore, after such deductions, I (the wise one) conclude that "bad boys" should be left as a fantasy and it should definately not be exercised upon. GEEKY boys, it's your turn to shine..
bring out your comic books, and wow us girls with your "LMAO" jokes and wikipedia knowledge.

Devil's Advocate

The ability to argue from both sides should be admired and applauded. When you study law, this is essential. Being the devil's advocate, coming up with clever minority arguments will often get your good marks. I love Kirby J. Blah Blah......

This is all good, BUT SOME PEOPLE take this too far.

PROBLEM:
Have you ever had a friend, who likes to make negative comments when you tell them something that you are proud of, or you did well in. A friend who compliments with the most condescending tone.

Let me demonstrate..

Exhibit A:
K: Hey X, I started a new blog!
X: That's exciting, abit narssistic though isn't it? I think only people who have too much spare time or are too into themselves write blogs.

Exhibit B:
K: Hey, I got a really good mark on ___.
X: oh well done, but i guess you have more time to work on your assignments since don't work much.

Exhibit C:
X: Hey you got a hair cut, I dont' see any difference.
X: I like your new hair, it ooks like Rhiannas, not very original .. no offense.

Exhibit D:
K: Hey I bought this really pretty dress.
X: oh it's nice, but I.....don't think it suits you.

As you can clearly see from above, X has a way of subtly inserting their negativism in to "compliments". One comment, fair enough.. 10 times consecutively....SLY moles.

It's true, I don't have thick skin. However, I can accept criticims, no worries mate. What is ironic is that the aforementioned "negative" comments are consistently paid out from the same individuals. They are always questioning you on why you did something, and saying that they don't agree. Honestly, after 10 times, I don't care what you think. You never get these comments from anyone else, so it's clearly them and NOT YOU. I propose two explanations. Firstly, Xs are not happy with their own life, therefore they feel the need to bring other people down to their level. Secondly, they were born with a broomstick up their rear end, which results in bottled up stress.


SOLUTION:
Remember, it takes 42 muscle to frown but only 3 to reach out and slap that bitch!


Haha, I apologise for these erratic posts.

Desire of the week:
These Christian Louboutins.......lust

I love this preppy look...I heart blazers.

Have a nice week guys!

Forever young.....

When you are young, you let your imagination fly.

I remember playing house under the table. Pretending that I was a mother, and trying to feed my baby and look after my husband (who is some poor boy next door, who only agreed to place house, so I would play cars crash games with him after). I had my fake tiny tea pots, stove and plates, and forcing any one I could find to eat scrap pieces of paper. (My noodles).

My cousin and I use to watch so many martial arts movies, and pretended we were xiao-lin temple monks. Fighting with broom sticks, and rulers down 5 floors of stairs. Everytime, I ended up crying, because he would accidently smack me too hard. But, the next day I would play the same game again.

What I hated was barbies. For some reason, they were abit useless to me. Dolls and bears, you can hug, trucks you can roll. Barbies are boring. I had one barbie, I chopped all her hair off, and made her bald, she was useless to me.

Did you ever play in the sand pit or the beach, build little castles, or pretend that they were food. Plants use to be vegetables to eat. When we were little, we could make anything come true. In a second, we could be at the beach, flying through space, exploring the jungle or shopping in a supermarket. We could be anyone that we wanted to be: mother, doctor, train conductor, teacher, policeman. All of which could be achieved without television, Wii, Playstation, Xbox or DS. It's called IMAGINATION.

What happened to us? At what point did it all become "Lame and Stupid". When we were little, we made "being employed" "studying", "cooking", "having a baby" so much fun! Why is it now the idea of doing all of the above bores us or freaks us out?

Most of you would say that we are simply being more realistic and critical, a process of growing up. But is it necessary a good thing? Being young is so much more fun! It releases our true spirit! Too bad plastic surgery cannot bring back real youth.

I hope you are all having a lovely weekend, I will leave you with.....

Apple on the stick, makes me sick, makes my heartbeat 2-4-6, not because you are dirty, not because you are clean, just because you kissed a boy behind a magazine....

What were your childhood games like? Leave a comment!

What can't you do because you are a couple?

Hello! I'm excited about this post.

For my readers who are single and want a boyfriend or girlfriend..you will think twice before you get into a relationship after reading this.
But in general, everyone who has ever been in a relationship, whether you are a guy or a girl, you will understand exactly what I mean. The following information is all absolutely true. Nothing is invented. Nothing needed to be.

So.. lets get started. What can't you do because you are a couple?Beauty and the beast cannot..............

• You cant' say the wrong thing. You cant' use the wrong tone of voice. And you can't deny the wrong tone-of-voice accusation when it's made.
• You can't make jokes about bald spots, ear shape, or fat or flat or other area of sensitivity, even if you did not know until that moement that it was an area of sensitivity.
  
• you can't go out when the other person feels like staying home. You can't go to parties alone. You can't go out to just go out, because you can't not be considerate of the other person's worries about where you are, or their natural insecurities that you're not where you should be, or about where you could be instead. (I know alot of guys would agree with this one)
• You can't make plans without consulting the other person, particularly not evenings or weekends, or make decisions about leisure-time usage without consultation.
• You can't leave your (pick one) books, tissues, shoes, makeup, mail, underwear, work, sewing stuff, pornography lying around the house.
• You can't spend too much time on the computer..and stay off those chat rooms! You can't have email flirtations, even if innocent.
• you can't play computer solitare because the clicking drives the other person crazy...
• you can't talk on the phone when they're in the room without them commenting on the conversation, or trying to talk to you at the same time.
• Your best friend can't call after 10.00pm.
• You can't have the wrong laugh: too loud, too explosive, too inappropriate, too sily.
• You cant' make penis size jokes or laugh when others do.
  
• You can't talk about past relationships, or you can't NOt talk about past relationship, and can't refuse to reveal all the long-forgotten details when asked.
• You can't not "communicate your feelings" except when those feelings are critical which they ought not be.
• You cant' be too charming in public, especially to persons of the opposite sex (or same sex where applicable).
• You can't spend more than X amount of time talking to such persons, with X measured in nanoseconds.
• You can't socialise with your exes, even if you swear it's really over.
  
• You may not critcize the other person's driving, signalling or lane-changing habits.
• You may not suggest to the other person that perhaps it's time to look at the melway, or ask for directions.
  

After all of the above, love is obtained!

For more of what you can't do...read "Against love-A Polemic" by Laura Kipnis.

Where did I get this from? My pensions and investment lecturer included this article in our study notes, because after two divorces, he realised how badly it could affect your financial asset and future retirement funds! So...be prepared single people!

For all couples.......know that you are not alone. Many are suffering with you...

Thanks for reading.
XoXo